In order to create safety in relationships, both people must start talking about their triggers with each other. If you are feeling triggered, you have to first understand what the trigger is, where it comes from, and what you can do to help yourself. So it’s not only insight but also strategy, behavior change, and communicating with your partner. It’s not about having your partner resolve that trigger for you. Often times in relationships, we have our own trauma and sometimes our trauma intersects with our partner’s trauma and that’s why we can’t find healing. If you are able to work through your triggers on your own, explain your triggers to your partner, find ways to connect with your partner when you are being triggered, there can be a better understanding of those triggers and deeper healing and understanding between the two of you.