Are you surviving separation and divorce?
Do more than survive your separation and divorce. In the process, you can learn to thrive.
It takes time to recover from divorce. You might think, “why is this taking so long?”
Friends might say, “you’re not over this yet?”
There’s a lot to heal from. The raw feelings that come at first–the grieving, figuring out how to be a single person again, finding a sense of belonging in your social group or developing a new community, and adjusting to single life and being a co-parent.
Who are you now?
My support groups are tailored to meet you — where you are emotionally. Whether you’re in the process of deciding, are in the midst of the legal-emotional aspects, or you’ve moved into working on yourself and thinking about dating again, there is a group to meet your needs — where you are now.
You will gain strategies, learn to cope, relate to others in similar situations–discover more about yourself and hear how other people manage their situations.
YOU WILL LEARN FROM THEM.
THEY WILL LEARN FROM YOU.
My style is direct and solution-oriented. I ask questions, help you set goals, stay focused on what you need and how to talk and think differently about your situation. I coach you to stay patient with your process, progress, and yourself. I facilitate discussions, members share experiences that help you gain insight, acceptance, and self-awareness.
I create a safe space for you to share your feelings, free of judgment. We process anything that might feels uncomfortable and unsupportive – together.
We support each other, learn to communicate clearly, actively listen, and practice new behavior together.
I know what you’re going through.
I get it.
There is a disorientation that initially sets in during the beginning stages of divorce. Denial, sadness, anger, bargaining, acceptance: all the grief stages are activated.
There’s no way to go through this process fast.
Finding yourself and your footing is not linear. There are days when you might feel grounded and secure. Then, a trigger can lead a fresh wave of grief, anger, and confusion.
You might even get into a new relationship and feel confident and renewed. Then you find yourself in a similar pattern as before where you start feeling burdened, trapped, and unsure about what you’re doing.
Moving on takes time. Practicing new behavior takes repetition.
If you have kids you will have to re-learn how to deal with your ex, shift communication and parenting styles, and become more formal and distant.
It’s hard to create new boundaries.
The same fighting may continue between you and your child’s parent. One of you may need more distance than the other. It’s hard to empathize with your ex-partner’s needs for distance or your own struggles because you’re both still letting go and needing to be parents.
How can you remain stable and focused on parenting when you’re going through a lot of transitions and change?
At the same time when the emotional upheaval seems as bad as it can get, you may be dealing with lawyers and courts. This just adds to feelings of frustration, fear, and vulnerability.
Joining a group can help. Having a contained space to talk about things you would not talk about anywhere else can help. Group members tell me they can’t find neutral people to talk to: friends and families are burnt-out, not neutral, and give unwanted advice.
It’s hard to find a way to socialize when you’re in so much pain.
Expressing your feelings, the deep resentment you’ve held for so long, can help. Whether you join this group, get the support you need to get through this tough time.
If you feel like I could possibly help you in the situation, don’t hesitate to schedule a free Inquiry call, so I can answer your questions and we can assess together whether this might be the right place for you.
During that call, we will set up your intake appointment if the groups feels like the right place for you.