Co-Parenting & Mediation

Co-Parenting

It’s not as simple as figuring out the logistics of how to separate. You need to be able to communicate and still be parents together

Sometimes, the things that need to be figured out during separation coincide with the parenting parts that need to be resolved. Luckily, I help with both. I am both a mediator and a seasoned, co-parenting therapist. I can help you make decisions about how you’re going to live life separately AND help you to figure out how you’re going to parent separately — and where you’re going to overlap. 

One of the biggest conflicts that I see in couples relationships (and why people end their marriages) is fundamental disagreement within their parenting styles. But, it gets even trickier to parent, once you’re separated. 

You need a safe place to talk it out. In my Co-parenting Mediation Sessions, I start by meeting with each of you separately, and then we work together. Sometimes there’s too much conflict, so we will continue to work separately instead. I’ll work with each one of you, and will never grade navigation agreements that way.

Co-Parenting & Mediation

How I can help you:

  • Setting Custody Schedules. How to effectively separate out the year, including holidays and vacations to create the most positive situation for the parents and the children involved. 
  • Managing the day-to-day around raising kids. Making decisions and communicating about education, health, safety and the emotional well-being of your children.
  • Working through money issues. Also, if you’re extending your family and getting remarried, we work on predicting the things that you’ll need to talk about and work through, with all involved.
    • Getting unstuck from the negativity of the old relationship patterns. Sometimes people feel angry or upset about cooperating with the other parent, believing that it indicates they agree with him/her or are letting the “ex” control them.
    • Resolving feelings of anger, discouragement, or helplessness. Knowing that they have to stay connected to the other parent, and interact with each other— whether they want to or not— can raise a lot of emotions that, if not worked through, can negatively impact everyone.
    • Resolving conflicts in parenting fundamentals. Feelings that the other parent is incompetent, or disagreeing with his/her parenting style, gets even more complicated upon separation.

The cost for Co-Parenting Therapy is $235 per hour.

Co-Parenting counseling can help to create the emotional distance needed to heal while still being able to parent cooperatively.

Mediation

When You Need it Most

Oftentimes, couples who are separating can’t agree on how to separate their lives. Further, if you have children, you’ll need to agree on their care and schedules. Sometimes what a couple really needs, is to sit face-to-face, talk about the issues, and find the right solutions.

Mediation can be a productive format by introducing a neutral party to structure the conversation. 

 

Why Mediation

Divorces involving the courts and lawyers with financial issues and disputes over child living arrangements are commonly very costly. These cases can take up to two to three years to get through the courts. Couples who choose mediation, prior to bringing a court action, can save both time and money. The time required to finalize a mediated divorce is often less than six months.

Mediation conserves time, emotional energy, and financial resources. Spouses can move forward without having to recover from the destructive side effects experienced during court proceedings. A separation, high in conflict, delays the emotional healing that will inevitably be experienced by each party. The fear of the unknown and the need to deal with issues of parent-child relationships can be overwhelming.

  • It is for divorcing and separating couples— whether or not they have children.
  • Mediation brings the issues of finances and childrearing out into the open, to be addressed and resolved through cooperation.
  • Mediation does not require attorneys to be present or retained by either spouse.
  • It’s not only for spouses/parents, but it is also available to extended family members (like grandparents) who are involved in a family dispute.

Biggest Reason for Mediation: Putting Your Children First

When each parent realizes the importance of having both parents in the life of their child, the road to a healthy future becomes clearer.

 

It is difficult enough for children to adjust to the reality that the family that they trusted to continue is actually breaking apart. Children with parents who treat each other with respect and who remain available to their children and other responsibilities, even during a divorce, are more likely to model such behavior and to perceive the world in a more positive light.

The cost for Mediation is $240 per hour.

Mediation allows couples to maintain their integrity and to continue to present themselves to their children as the kind of parents they would be proud to see their children become.

Online Support

Please visit my ‘Relationship Solutions Programs’ website to access online programs and workshops, available to clients worldwide.